Christmas is seen by many as a time for celebrating with the family and revelling in the festive season, but that’s not an option for everyone. For some, such as those who have suffered grief with the loss of a loved one, Christmas can be the worst time of the year.
If this is the first Christmas without that special person, you might be dreading the festive period. Remember though, that while the anticipation of Christmas Day is one you can barely think about, the actual day itself is not always that bad, and does not need to be as terrible as it may seem.
Here are some tips to help get you through this Christmas:
Don’t be afraid to admit you’re struggling. You’re allowed to find it tough, especially at this time of year. Don’t suffer in silence. If you feel you are struggling, accept the help that’s available, whether that’s through a professional, or the comfort of a family member or friend.
Don’t be pressured into anything
Just because Christmas is seen as a time for being happy and celebrating, do not feel you have to do what’s considered the norm if you do not want to. Do what you want, not what it is perceived you should do.
Remember your loved one on Christmas Day
There are a number of ways of remembering that special person on Christmas Day. You could write a poem and read it to yourself on the day, or light a memorial candle for them at the table.
Focus on happy memories
Your head is likely to be filled with many emotions, but try to focus on the happy memories. Write down all the good times you had together, and go through them when you have a quiet moment, or when you have friends and family around you. Take your mind off the occasion and bring a sense of happiness to it.
Acknowledge in the lead up to Christmas that it’s going to be a tough period, and try to prepare for it. Don’t get too down on yourself and allow yourself some time to grieve.